Married Life

Time sure flies when you are having fun and I have been having a blast! The last year has been cray cray. Being married is awesome! And different. And exciting. And frustrating. And moving. And lovely. And peaceful. And fast. And beautiful. And sweet. And comfortable. But before we got married lots of people told us that being married would be hard.  Being married is not hard, learning to be selfless is hard.
Self-less [self-lis]: having little or no concern for oneself; unselfish; having little concern for one's own interest; being married. Just kidding! I added that last one. Selfless - less self. Less - more of something else. So, selfless is less of yourself and more of someone else. Love it, hate it. It's a skill that I'm working on.

I feel like I have these needs that need to be met (well, obviously needs need to be met). My needs are things like happiness and comfort, you know the usual things.  But, by being a selfless person I'm putting my husband's needs, the same general needs that I have, before my own needs.  Not as easy as it sounds... just kidding, it doesn't even sound easy.

Ok, riddle me this: Who is the most selfless person in history? Who gave up his needs, his own life for others, for the world? The Savior. In Mark 10:43-45 it says, "...whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: and whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all. For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minster, and to give his life a ransom for many."

So, having a selfless marriage is having a Christ centered marriage.  Being Christ like to each other. I remember the day that Mitch and I got married.  We were sitting in LDS Spokane, Washington Temple together. It was just us. He was holding me and we were talking about how great our lives were going to be together.  It was perfect.  The whole world had stopped and it was just us, we were the center of the world.  I promised right there that I would try my very best to be the wife that Mitch needed.  I promised that I would do my best to give Mitch the comfort, support, security, understanding, forgiveness and love that the Savior would give him. And I think that I will dedicate my whole life to becoming that person for my husband.  And that's what marriage is.

Gosh I love this man!